40s: all my life experiences, good and bad have led me to be truly able to be myself at last

40s: all my life experiences, good and bad have led me to be truly able to be myself at last


What kind of career’s advice did you get as a young woman?      


What did you want to be when you left education?


Did your mother work?      


Love & Relationships:

Do you think getting married is important?        

Not in the traditional sense, but I value the idea of some form of declaration of commitment and intent.

What did you dream your future partner would be like when you were a little girl?        

Kind & loving

Is your relationship with your partner the same as your parents’ relationship?    

Not at all


How like your mother are you?      

Not like her at all

What are your hopes for any daughters or young women you know?      

To feel good about herself, believe in herself & fulfil whatever dreams she has.

Do you bring your son up the same way as your daughter? Do you think boys and girls should be brought up differently?        

Yes , I have tried to..   No , I don’t think they should be brought up differently.

Expectations and Dreams:

Who are your heroines and why?

Elizabeth Taylor, for her passion for life & humanitarian  work

Joan of Arc, for her strength & fearlessness

Maya Angelou, for her words, truth & serenity

Sian Phillips , for never giving up

What’s the bravest thing you’ve ever done?

Road trip for 10 days alone in my camper van to the Outer Hebrides

What drives you?    


What are your values?

Love, kindness & honesty

What is your biggest achievement?    

Not giving up


How old are you?    


What has been your favourite age to be and why?  

49, because all my life experiences, good and bad have led me to be truly able to be myself at last

Do you think it’s better to be young now than when you were young? (Or better now than when your parents were young?).        

No, I think it’s much worse to be young now on both counts


What are the pros and cons of being a woman?      

PROS :  nurturing, natural creativity, female friendship

CONS:   Hormone fluctuation, not being taken seriously, being judged on appearances

What have been the biggest challenges in your life?

Losing grandparents at young age

Abusive mother & absent father

Intimate relationships

Loving myself

Death of a boyfriend


Facial deformity of one of my children


Relationship betrayal

Achieving material security

Building self esteem

Self-image – Body or Looks:

Why do you dress the way that you do?    

Because I love colour & texture

What would be your musical soundtrack?  

Stevie Wonder –  Innervisions

Do you have a life’s motto?    

Truth will out / Never give up

Anything else you’d like to add?  

I’m extremely glad to have been born a woman in this lifetime ☺️

How old are you?